My daughter and I spend a lot of time at the playground. One of the ones we go to has multiple play areas – each designed for a different age group. Apparently, she didn’t get that message. She likes them all, and I never know which one she’ll pick from visit to visit.
Lately, she’s really into climbing. Steps, ladders, anything that’s climbable. It doesn’t matter how high or complex it is, she wants to go up there.
Me, I often think ...
Read more →Trust is often a trouble spot in relationships with the clients I work with. When you think your partner is doing something they shouldn’t be, and asking them about it gets you nowhere, it’s pretty normal to want to figure out what’s really going on. This is when people take matters into their own hands, whether by spying on their partner’s text messages, hacking an email or Facebook account, or even hiring a private investigator.
Here’s my take on this: ...
Read more →Arguing about ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ gets away from something that’s far more important: What you (and your partner) feel, believe, want, and need.
If the wants and needs of the people in a relationship are continually disregarded, for whatever reason, the connection between the two people eventually dies. (This is just as true when you or your partner disregard your own wants & needs as it is when you disregard the other’s wants & needs.)
‘Either / or’ kills ...
Read more →There’s only one thing you truly have to do: die. Really, that’s it. Everything else is optional.
Sure, some choices are pretty obvious due to the significant consequences – but they are still choices.
The next time you find yourself saying “I had no choice”, stop for a second. Is that true? If you shift your mindset from “I have to” to “I am choosing to”, what changes for you?