Consider the Source

I was a pretty sensitive kid … and it was something that I was judged and criticized for a lot in my younger years. It became a source of shame for a number of years … until I came to really understand what a strength it could be and how to use it in a…

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What if your story is wrong?

What do the negative voices in your head say about you? That you’re ‘stupid,’ ‘defective,’ ‘not good enough,’ ‘a loser’? Do they pile on with messages about how you’ll never change … about how you can’t change? Well, try some of these ideas on for size: What if … you’re just a normal human being?…

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You can’t think your way out of fear

  This seems counterintuitive, I know. After all, we use our brains to problem solve. So, we believe that … … If we just do enough thinking, we’ll be able to figure out a plan, a backup plan, and a backup to the backup plan. … If we just keep thinking about it, we’ll understand…

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Are we there yet?

Have you ever taken a long car trip with kids? It can be pretty rough. They aren’t patient, they don’t care about the journey, and they manage to take up an amazing amount of space for being small. The more they focus on ‘are we there yet?’, the more frustrated and impatient everyone in the…

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How to eat an elephant

I’d been working with a new client for a couple of months. One day she came in and said “I need to talk to you about something. It’s got me totally overwhelmed, and it’s very hard to talk about.” “Sure,” I said gently. “What’s going on?” She told me that the condition of her house…

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