How to eat an elephant

I’d been working with a new client for a couple of months. One day she came in and said “I need to talk to you about something. It’s got me totally overwhelmed, and it’s very hard to talk about.”   “Sure,” I said gently. “What’s going on?”   She told me that the condition of…

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The Problem with Relationship Rules

We live in a world that has all sorts of rules, but that approach breaks down in relationship. Here’s the problem with relationship rules:   Who’s going to enforce them?   You can spend all day gathering data to support your position that your partner did something ‘wrong’. You can be objectively right in your…

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It Can’t Be Saved

I’m sure you’ve heard this one before: “Nothing comes for free.”   It’s true. Everything costs some combination of time and energy (and often money). Today, though, I want to focus on time.   In studying highly successful people (in any area of life, be it business, sports, school, or something else), one of the…

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