This is exciting – and a little scary For several years now, I’ve been thinking about the traditional psychotherapy model and it’s limitations. I’ve been looking at how things could be improved, and I wanted to design programs that would allow me to do a more effective job of helping more people have happier lives…Details
Today’s post is a guest post from finance specialist and freelance blogger Domenic Holme who specializes in debt consolidation and debt relief. Traditionally, money isn’t something that often brought into the relationship discussion. There are a few reasons for that. One, many people are brought up learning that personal finances are just that: personal. I’ve…Details
Being ‘too nice’ hurts trust in your relationship One of the unexpected consequences of being ‘too nice’ is the impact it has on trust in your relationship. What does being nice have to do with trust? Well, people who are ‘too nice’ often omit things from their communication – giving answers that are incomplete, vague,…Details
In my last blog post, I talked about the problems created by being too nice in your relationship. Today, I’m going to write about how to decrease the pressure being ‘too nice’ can put on your partner – by becoming more of a partner yourself. Warning: it’s probably going to involve facing some fears. Ultimately,…Details
‘I was always told that it was important to be nice to others … but it doesn’t seem to be working in my relationship…my partner keeps getting mad at me,” one client said to me recently. People who are ‘too nice’ often have relationship problems. Let me start by explaining what I mean by ‘too…Details
“How do I stop my partner from controlling me?” is a question I often hear from clients. The short answer: stop letting them control you – like any relational dance, it takes two. The longer answer, I’m going to borrow from the world of addiction recovery. There are always three choices we have in responding…Details
If you don’t ask …
… you won’t be let down.
… you won’t be criticized.
… you won’t be rejected.
… you won’t get what you want.
What’s more important – certainty or possibility?