The Problem with Relationship Rules

We live in a world that has all sorts of rules, but that approach breaks down in relationship. Here’s the problem with relationship rules:   Who’s going to enforce them?   You can spend all day gathering data to support your position that your partner did something ‘wrong’. You can be objectively right in your…

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It Can’t Be Saved

I’m sure you’ve heard this one before: “Nothing comes for free.”   It’s true. Everything costs some combination of time and energy (and often money). Today, though, I want to focus on time.   In studying highly successful people (in any area of life, be it business, sports, school, or something else), one of the…

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It is what it is? Maybe not.

In college, I took a music class where we studied music from a number of different cultures. There was a couple of cassette tapes (Yeah, remember those?) with music pieces from around the world, and there was one piece that always stuck out to me . It’s a recording of postal workers from Ghana. Check…

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Is It Helpful?

All kinds of thoughts pop into our brain, unbidden. It’s just part of what the human brain does. What do you do with the ones that show up in your head? Ignore them? Fight with them? Treat them as fact? Maybe you aren’t even sure what you do with them. If you want to take…

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4 Questions to ask your fears

The next time you’re feeing fear or anxiety, stop and take a few minutes to answer these four questions:   1) What am I afraid is going to happen? 2) Why am I afraid it’s going to happen? 3) What can I do to decrease the likelihood of it happening? 4) What can I do…

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