Recently, I was speaking with someone about couples counseling. She told me her boyfriend was reluctant to come to counseling and asked if I had experience working with men like him.
I laughed. If you look, you can see heel tracks in the carpet of my office – the result of all the guys who’ve been dragged to therapy by their partners.
Really, there aren’t a lot of people, male or female, who get excited about going to see a ...
Continue Reading → ShareIt’s not unusual to point to rules and norms as a way of supporting your position when you are in an argument with your partner. Generally, though, it doesn’t work. Here’s the problem with relationship rules:
Who’s going to enforce them?
You can spend all day compiling data to support your position that your partner did something wrong. You can be objectively right. However, there’s really nothing you can do to make your partner admit they were wrong or do something different. ...
Continue Reading → ShareUnless you are an entrepreneur, marketer, or small-business owner, you may not have heard of Seth Godin. I’m a regular reader of his blog, and have been intending to share some of his posts that I’ve wanted to comment on for a while now. I’m going to start with this post, from the beginning of the year. In it, he identifies two mistakes that we tend to make in response to pain:
Continue Reading → Share1) The notion that you can trade ...