Arguing about ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ gets away from something that’s far more important: What you (and your partner) feel, believe, want, and need.

If the wants and needs of the people in a relationship are continually disregarded, for whatever reason, the connection between the two people eventually dies. (This is just as true when you or your partner disregard your own wants & needs as it is when you disregard the other’s wants & needs.)

‘Either / or’ kills relationships.