I’m sure you’ve heard the Vince Lombardi quote:  “Winning isn’t everything, it’s the only thing.”

It’s not my favorite quote.  First off, because it’s simply not true, and secondly, because it encourages a mentality that’s very damaging – especially in a relational environment.

Sure, in (most) sports, there’s a ‘winner’ and a ‘loser’.  Sports are about competition, and they keep score, so that’s how it’s going to play ...