Are you getting lost in your relationships?
- Have you found yourself sacrificing your wants and needs for others, to the point that it negatively impacts your life?
- Are you in a relationship with someone that has a problem with alcohol or drugs?
- Are your moods affected by the emotional state of people around you?
- Is conflict something you try to avoid, even if it means giving up on your wants and needs?
- Do you, friends, or co-workers consider you a perfectionist?
If you answered “yes” to some or all of these questions, it’s possible that you are codependent. You may be feeling overwhelmed, drained, and resentful. Codependency takes a tremendous toll, emotionally, mentally, and physically. In many ways, codependency is like a person carrying two backpacks - it gets pretty heavy, and it’s hard to keep track of everything. If you’re looking for help, you’re in the right place - one of my specialties is helping people just like you to stop feeling so overwhelmed, powerless, and angry.
You didn’t cause it - but counseling can help you do something about it
Often, people who struggle with codependency experienced a difficult home environment growing up. You may have experienced neglect or abuse, witnessed lots of fighting between others in the home, or had to deal with the impact of substance abuse . In that world, you learned a different set of rules that impact you in your adult relationships and set you up to have the difficulties you’ve been experiencing. There’s nothing wrong with you - you’ve just learned rules that don’t work in the rest of the world. I understand - I experienced some similar challenges in my childhood, and that led to some real problems in relationships and finding balance and happiness in my life.In counseling, you’ll learn how to recognize the behavior patterns that leave you overwhelmed, hurt, and upset. I’ll teach you how to spot an unhealthy relationship, how to build a healthy one, how to set and hold effective boundaries in your relationships, and how to balance your needs with the needs of other important people in your life. This can help you improve your self-esteem, have happier relationships, and to find more time and energy for yourself.